How was everyone’s weekend?
If all went as planned, I came back late last night and am still recovering from vacation. For my final guest blogger, I’d like to introduce you to Sarah from Classy and Fabulous. She is another blog I found recently and immediately added to my reader. Be sure to follow her – you’re in for a treat!
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Hi everyone! My name is Sarah and I guess the lovely Julie brought me around to class the place up or something. I don’t know what she was thinking, but here I am.
Today I’m going to talk a little bit about something that has been plaguing me for a while. It’s definitely a bit more serious than my usual blogging material, but stick with me, ok?
Hi, my name is Sarah and I am 22.75 years old. I graduated in May from college with a degree in marketing and by all accounts was supposed to be a huge success story. For goodness sakes, I was the marketing student of the year. I am passionate and compassionate and a hard worker.
But as I write this, I am sitting in my childhood bedroom. Today my big fat goals are to: do laundry, go through my closet for Goodwill, and mow the lawn. It’s been literally weeks since I last applied for a job.
I believe what I am having here is a bit of a Failure to Launch.
In some ways, I have all the real excuses in the world.
My mom died of cancer in November 2007, and I’ve been helping my dad pick up the pieces ever since.
My boyfriend of 6 years, the one I was dead-set on marrying, decided he didn’t see a future for us and dumped me out of the blue a month ago. He’s moving away to start a highly-paying training program and I will likely never see him again.
My dad signed the paperwork to sell our house, and we now have about 25 days before we have to be out for good. And I am the moving person.
So what do I do?
I already feel like I have a giant LOSER sign tattooed across my forehead.
I feel like a car that’s in neutral and I’m pushing the gas pedal to the floor.
And on the other hand – I am a little grateful for this time. I’m spending time with my friends, and will likely end up moving an hour away when I find a job.
The question is – am I really a failure? Am I really that big of a disappointment?
So it turns out that it’s really me with the problem, nobody else. Instead of thinking about how I’m a failure and about how I should be doing this or that, I should feel lucky to have this time.
I’m not having a failure to launch… I’m just on a different schedule than I originally thought.
Hi! My name is Julie. I am passionate about being happy and healthy, all while doing Bikram yoga and wearing mascara. Email me: wearingmascara {at} gmail {dot} com
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First, welcome back Julie!
Sarah, you are one of my favorite bloggers. You seem to be a very sweet young woman and I’m glad I found your blog! You are not a loser. You are going through a big transition and every one has those at various points in their life. Three years ago I went through one and also felt like a big loser. I am about to go through a life change again when I get married in less than 2 months and at times that makes me both excited and nervous! Good things will happen for you, I believe that each of us has a plan that has been mapped out for us and though it doesn’t always make sense, it’s there. You will get a job, you will love again and you will prevail. Trust me. I know.
.-= Cari @ The Babbling Brook(s)´s last blog ..The Shoes =-.
There are many people in your situation. I have a job, in fact I am “working” right now and I often feel the same way. At least you have time to spend with friends. Enjoy it while you can because time is the most valuable thing you have. Good luck with job search and moving!
.-= Mrs. Foodie´s last blog ..Weekend =-.
I think with what you’ve been going through recently, you’re allowed to be on a different schedule than you planned. Hell I didn’t get a “real” job after college until November of that year. And I had no excuse!
.-= Lacey Bean´s last blog ..Whip it Up Week 5 – Subtly Spicy Chocolate-Chili Brownies (Yum!) =-.
I think everyone goes through this phase on one level or another. I know I had grand visions when I graduated college of the job that was magically waiting for me to come and claim it. The truth is, I had a job when I graduated college, but I didn’t even last a week it was so terrible. Then I spent the summer floating around doing nothing (not even much friend time) just feeling sorry for myself. I found another job eventually and then switched jobs again. I think after a little bit of time stuff starts to just make sense.
And I realize you have probably heard some variation of this one hundred times already, but at some point you will look back at the whole guy thing with much more clarity. If you are anything like me you will go “Thank God I didn’t marry that other guy” when the right one comes along.
.-= Sarah´s last blog ..Found =-.